There was a time, in the past, when I believed that if I loved my body as-is, unconditionally, I'd have to give up on my weight loss goals, and the mixed media messages certainly don't help. Yes, absolutely, beauty comes in all shapes and sizes, but good health... Not so much. This is where the key is, this is where I had my "light bulb moment"
Loving yourself unconditionally does not mean settling for an unhealthy lifestyle, and it most certainly does not mean accepting defeat. Anyone who has children can certainly relate to this conversation, "Mommy/Daddy it's too hard I can't do it" and your reply, "keep trying, you can do it"
So why is it that in the name of self-love people decide to accept obesity as "beauty in all shapes and sizes" and accept the "set point" weight theories. This is not self-love, this accepting defeat, you can't give up on someone you truly love.
Some people who desperately "need" to loose 10 lbs are actually in a healthy weight range, and loving yourself in that case might mean re-evaluating that goal, but the majority of my clients, have a legitimate medical need to loose weight, but without loving yourself, diets will never work.
Start by getting some outfits that fit well and are flattering to your shape right now. Think happy thoughts, the negative self-talk in the head matters a lot.
It's OK to want change, As long as the desire for change is expressed from a place of love It is all right, and helpful. The next time you are in a mirror don't think, "ugh, I look gross I need to loose weight. "
think, "I love you and I care about your health, I want you to take better care of yourself."
And yes, you are beautiful just the way you are, more so when you love yourself, and smile.