We have gone so far as to accuse our healthcare providers of fat shaming. We have gone so far as to bash thin people. This started out as beautiful thing, an effort to let women of all shapes and sizes know that they are beautiful has gone much too far.
Beauty comes in all shapes and sizes, good health does not.
Many studies show a link between obesity and mortality (dying too young see below) and if you are obese and your health care provider does not advise you to lose weight, they are just as negligent as if they didn't tell you not to smoke, take illegal drugs, or drink excessive amounts of alcohol. It's not fat shaming any more than smoke shaming, sugar shaming, blood pressure shaming, and alcohol shaming. If you are at risk for a health problem, it's your health care provider's responsibility to inform you of that fact and help you make the healthy changes. If that offends or upsets you, you need to work on your self-esteem and self love. Your body size does not define who you are but it is an important measure of your health.
I am well aware of the new "health at any size movement" and quite frankly disappointed that it even exists. The research is flawed and it's just another example of greed. I know many people will disagree but the truth is. If you have happy customers you make more money. In Medicine the mostsatisfied patients have the worst outcomes. You in fact have a 26% higher risk for dying if your doctor is primarily worried about how happy you are. Another study was halted early when it found a 238% increase in death when patient satisfaction was top priority. In other words if your doctor is willing to piss you off, he cares about your health more than he cares if you like him. Keep that Doctor. While some definitely need sensitivity training and a gentler approach the research proves that obesity will kill you, and so advising you to lose weight is not body shaming, its just good medicine, and losing you as a patient makes your doctor lose money, so remember, that doctor cares more about your health and telling you the truth than he does about his own wallet.
Thin Shaming is not ok
But yes, You are beautiful the way you are
Furthermore there is some fat you just can't get rid of.
Assume you've lost a lot of weight. When you gain weight and gain fat you essentially build closets and fill them with clothes. When you lose weight you get rid of the clothes but you can not unbuild the closets. This is why obese people who lose weight have extra skin (from trapped fat storage cells) and women who have given birth, but did not gain excessive weight in pregnancy, do not have extra skin (the uterus goes back to normal size and the skin then returns to normal.) If you were obese, this is normal.
This is what companies call "cellulite" and it's not going anywhere unless you have surgery. Building muscle might help on the arms to spread it out and make it "flap" less, but on the abdomen it will not do a thing because strong abs don't bulge outward like strong biceps do. The only remedy is surgery, which is expensive and carries health risks too. If the extra skin is in the way of walking or causing rashes, by all means go for it. Don't waste your money on wraps, lotions, and other scams and don't starve yourself into poor health in an attempt to achieve the perfect body. This is where body acceptance is needed most. At this stage you are healthy, you might still have a little fat on the belly, but you've made a major accomplishment. You should be proud and everyone else needs to get over their vision of a perfect body.
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- Negative health effects of Obesity Michigan State University. Michigan State University Board of Trustees. 2014.
- ^ Schwimmer JB, Burwinkle TM, Varni JW (2003). Health related Quality of Life of severely obese children and adolescents JAMA 289 (14): 1813–9.